I
am not an incredibly keen observer of people, but I do enjoy the occasional
people-watching. Some like to gaze at
the harried travelers who hustle with their bags down the claustrophobia
inducing corridors of airports. People
carrying baggage, physical and otherwise, pressing close to those going to
different destinations. Sometimes when
I’m in a place with lots of people, I try to see each person as their story, to
see what emanates from the lines around their eyes, the ease of their smiles or
the accoutrements with which they adorn themselves.
Once,
while sitting on a bus, I noticed a woman in her sixties sitting by herself
wistfully staring out the window. In my
mind I tried to write her story – darker skin, she looked like she was from the
Indian sub-continent, perhaps she’d been in an arranged marriage to an Indian
gentleman who, wanting to escape the overcrowding of his home country, moved
his family to Australia. She wore little
jewelry; only a band of gold on her finger and small pearl earrings; her
clothes bespoke comfort and usefulness.
Probably her husband was a businessman and her children, a boy and girl,
lived comfortable married lives and this woman spent her days looking after her
grandchildren.
How
wrong I was.
I
sat next to her and before I could even begin to ask her about her story, she
was asking me mine. The crow’s feet
around her eyes deepened as she, it seemed, had already began to decipher my
story.
“I
know you,” she said before I even claimed the seat in front of her.
“I
suppose it’s possible,” I said with a smile, “Do you hang out in the Lockyer
Valley quite often.”
She
smiled. “If I knew where the Lockyer
Valley was, I suppose that would be true.
No,” she continued, “you have the face of a person I met just recently.”
“Where
was that?” I asked.
Her
eyes darted outside and then to her lap.
“At the psych ward in the hospital.”
Laughter
escaped my lips.
“I
knew that it wasn’t you, but just last week,” she said, “I was going to work –
I am a social worker at the hospital – and this man sat on the seat next to
me. He told me fantastic stories of
travel and adventure. He was a very nice
man; had a beard just like yours – no accent, though. Anyway, as we reached the hospital, I stood
up and so did he. Little did I know that
he was going to enter the same ward to which I was going.” Her head tilted sideways trying to see if I
indeed was going to follow her to the hospital.
“So,
I remind you of him.”
“You
could be twins,” she said and pointed to my face.
“I
already have two of those,” I said and began to tell my story.
On
our ride through the twisted streets of Brisbane, I got to know everything
about this woman: her marriage to a man from Zimbabwe. Both of her sons were born in Africa and they
left only when the country began to descend into Mugabe’s thirteenth circle of
hell. I learned that her husband had
died not long before and she was supporting herself by helping at the hospital. One of her sons was successful and living at
home with her; the other son was, what she said, ‘chalk and cheese’, meaning
that he was the exact opposite of his brother - a drifter bouncing from job to
job playing guitar with whatever band would have him.
I
learned almost everything about her that I could in a twenty minute bus ride
except her name, that is.
Amazingly,
you never really know a person until you start with a name. We are all claimed by a name, the word that
labels us, defines us as part of a family.
A name gives us an identity and placement in a world of discord and the
person that speaks that name is conscious of who we are and where we’ve been.
I
was wrong about this woman’s story – everything that I tried to construct for
her was a judgment of preconceptions
that I had learned and inherited from my own cultural background.
We
do the same thing as we ‘people-watch’ Biblical characters. When I read the calling of Matthew, or, in
Mark’s second chapter, Levi, we are given a little information which allows us
to read the cover of the book.
Once
again, Jesus went out beside the lake. A large crowd came to him, and he began
to teach them. As he walked along, he
saw Levi, son of Alphaeus, sitting at the tax collector’s booth…
Mark 2:13,14a
I
already know that this person will eventually end up being Matthew – he who was
a tax collector (from his own people) and ultimately became a disciple who
followed Jesus. End of story, close the
back cover, that’s all I need to know because that’s all I’ve ever known. When I look at this brief introduction to
Levi, it doesn’t startle me like it would have first century minds. We don’t have a correlating job description
in the 21st century that helps us to see what kind of disdain that a
tax collector received. Certainly there
are jokes about those that pass the bar exam; sometimes we roll our eyes at the
antics of politicians, but a tax collector was, in the view of his
contemporaries, an outcast and a traitor, often a thief. To imagine that Jesus would choose a tax
collector right after the four fishing brothers is paramount to producing
ridicule. I read these two short verses
and I see the end of the story, one that I have filled in by a cursory reading
of the Bible, but the true story of Matthew is one of a man who, perhaps, like
many of his tax collecting brethren, was treated contemptuously day after
day. Perhaps he had become immune to taunts
of those had to visit his booth. Gradually,
as those barbs sunk deeper and deeper snagging on the walls of his heart in
turn creating a benumbed man intent on creating a world of financial despair
for those that had ruined him emotionally.
Vengeance is incredibly enticing to those who are in pain.
We
create background stories for all sorts of people we encounter. Usually it is by physical appearance or, in
other words, believing we have read a whole book by reading the jacket. I don’t know how many times I have put down a
really interesting book after reading the two hundred word synopsis and then
looked at the photo of the author. For
some reason, my brain decides whether a book will be interesting by how well
the author sits for his or her jacket photo, steepled fingers looking far off into
the sunset.
I
hate those photos.
How
many times do we see others on the street, or better yet, those who come to our
churches, like jackets from hard cover books?
If, in the first moments we meet them, we do not connect with them from
hearing their story or even connect with them by their looks, often we have
assumed they have nothing to offer us (or worse yet, the church).
When
I was a youth director in Arizona, I remember one Sunday a young man arrived at
our worship services. Decked out in
hiking shoes, backpack slung over one shoulder, long red hair unkempt, he stood
at the back of the church watching over the proceedings with amused
interest. He stayed for the whole
morning, taking in the hymns that proclaimed we were to stand up, stand up for
Jesus, we were to reach out to the whole world sharing his love, and then the
disconnect hit me as I watched him from the front of the church: not one person
talked to him before, between or after the services.
I
approached him after the second service.
His backpack was on the ground by his feet, his arms were crossed. The congregation had to file out past him in
order to get to the doughnuts and coffee.
Perhaps a few nodded at him, but he certainly made no effort to engage
anyone first. His jacket spoke of a
young man who was wandering his way through life, but I was to find out his
story was much different.
It
has been many years since this episode happened, but I still remember when I
invited this young man to my apartment to have lunch with us. I expected him to decline and I guiltily
guess that I wanted him too. Just one
more thing in a busy day, but he instantly accepted my offer and before I could
pack my things into my office, James was asking me questions like, “How did you
get involved in a church like this? Did
I find it boring? Is there a point to
singing the songs that they did when they don’t really change anything? What’s the point of dressing up for church
when you dress everyone down with your eyes?”
Usually
I’m the one asking questions so I was overwhelmed with trying to sort through
what he was asking. Obviously, James was
very intelligent and I wanted to ask him why he was homeless, why he would
waste an intellect like his by backpacking across the desert. But that was my predilection to judgment
surfacing. James, when his story erupted
from him, was a young man born to wander, like one of the roaming prophets of
early Israel’s time. His parents had been
missionaries and when he was old enough, he left home to hitchhike the southwestern
deserts attending churches and speaking out against the hypocrisy of
contemporary Christianity. His questions
to me were startling in their simplicity, but they are questions we normally
don’t even ponder, but moreso, James’ prophetic word to the church is:
Do
not judge the value of a person by how well he or she fits into the inorganic
spaces of the church building. The true
church, the Body of Christ, has empty places which can only be filled by people
who are every day normal. Regardless of vocation
or location, homeless or helpless, each person has a distinctive place in the
kingdom. One of my favorite passages
that I wish the Body of Christ would pay more attention to, which would help it
transition from graceless to grace-full, is…
The eye cannot say to the hand,
“I don’t need you!” and the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need
you!” On the contrary, those parts of
the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and the parts that we think
are less honorable, we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are
treated with special modesty, while our presentable parts need no special
treatment. But God has combined the
members of the body and has given greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so
that there should be no division in the body but that its parts should have
equal concern for each other. If one
part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part
rejoices with it.”
1 Corinthians 12:2-26
Imagine
if Levi was treated with more honor because he had to do the undesirable task
of retrieving taxes for a corrupt government.
Imagine if he was treated with compassion and made to feel
indispensable, how would that have changed his life? Imagine each one of us on the journey of life
treating all people we meet, especially those who are pushed to the very
margins of the page of the book of life, with respect and admiration – how
would this planet be different? Those
who have been blessed greatly already need nothing else. They don’t need special recognition; they
don’t’ need banquets thrown in their honor; they don’t need extravagant gifts
lavished upon them because their names have carried them far. But those who are the have nots… Imagine how
life would be different.
The
haves, the ones who had already received special recognition were indignant
when they found out that Jesus was socializing with sinners and tax collectors,
lepers and those deemed unclean by the freshly scrubbed. When the teachers of the law saw him sitting
and (gasp) eating with ‘sinners’ and tax collectors they asked his disciples
(notice, they don’t ask Jesus himself, but the uneducated fishermen who really
have no idea what they signed up for) “Why does he eat with these people?”
But
Jesus responds as he always does standing up for those who have fallen,
standing for and in place of those who spiritual legs have collapsed in the earthquake
that is their life, “It isn’t the healthy
who need a doctor, but the sick. I have
not come to call the righteous but sinners.”
He
comes to call, to speak their names, to know their stories but asking
questions, eating with them, hearing their stories and call them to a different
life. He is less concerned for those who
have hardened their shells with piety than those whose souls are pliable and
willing to look for anything that will give them comfort.
1 comment:
This entry could have easily been three! It is loaded!
First, Names.
You are so right Reid, names claim us and give us an identity. Parents spend careful time choosing a name for their child. Many names hold familial significance. Children love to hear the story of how their parents chose their name. You can buy all sorts of things with your name on it. Coke now has their plastic bottles that say: “Share a Coke with… Nathan, Sue, Richard. Is your name on a Coke?!
Second, Judging a book by its cover.
What a great quote! When we meet new people, when we “people watch” do we judge or discern? Is judging the right word? I think it is too harsh and final. Synonyms (I love synonyms) for judge: ruling, verdict, opinion, conclusion, decision. I think discernment is a better word. It is awareness and understanding without an emotional response. It is: insightful, acuity, wisdom and (a great new word I just learned) perspicacity. “Judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who you are” (author unknown). We are all books with pages and chapters full of adventures, sorrows, joys, heroes villains, and thickened plots. And our covers. Not just our clothes and hair styles, but the cover of our deepest beings. How can anyone judge another without getting into the depth of their book pages?
Third, 1 Corinthians 12: 21-26 (not 2-26)
I love the analogy of the body that Paul uses. It illustrates the idea of unity that preserves diversity. Christian unity works best when there is diversity. We’re a team! We are all unified by the fact that each one of us belongs to the body of Christ only by the grace of God, yet we are interdependent on one another. Paul’s letter is addressing the same problems that confront the church today: immaturity, instability, division, jealousy, lawsuits, sexual immorality and envy. Different time, same problems – amazing! Low self esteem is such a big problem today. What if we acted like Jesus? What if we sat down and got to know each other, listened to one another’s stories, and celebrated each other’s abilities, talents, and skills. What if?
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